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Thursday, February 28, 2013

♬ Do you ever feel... like a plastic bag, drifting through the wind... 

Well I think most of us don't, but all of us definitely feel this at one point or another:

STRESSED


With all the different commitments, expectations & obstacles we face, it's impossible to never feel stressed!

Sometimes juggling everything can become really tiring & exasperating...

According to the National Youth Survey (2010), the top 4 stressors youths faced were:
1) Future uncertainty
2) Family relationships
3) Finances
4) Emerging adult responsibility

#1 & #4 speak to me especially now, because I graduate in a few months! T_T

For all you youngsters facing O or ALevels, don't forget lao niang (me lah) has been through it too!
These are the 2 major exams in our lives for many of us (OLevels at least) & it can get pretty hectic.

I remember one girl in my Secondary school class started hyperventilating in class one day O.O
The teachers made her breathe into a paper bag so that her breathing would resume a normal pace.

I never had a panic attack like that, but there were many times where I would be so stressed out & frustrated (especially when I'm struggling to solve/understand a concept) that I would just end up bawling T_T 
Or banging on the printer....

So I know sometimes when the going gets tough, you just feel like...
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I know a big part of stress comes from having to deal with so many expectations on you!
Your own, your parents', society's...

I remember being so, so, so scared when I was collecting my OLevel results!
I started crying even BEFORE I got them...
All my friends thought I was crying because I had done badly so they were kinda like... 
-_- -_- -_-
...when they realised I hadn't even gotten them haha

And stress doesn't just end at those few major exams :(

This is the thickness of the reading materials for ONE of my university modules... :/

Stress is everywhere in our lives, not just when it comes to school!
We face stress at work, at our CCAs, in friendships, family ties, relationships... the list is endless.

So I'm here today to talk about how you can deal with it! :D

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Whenever you're feeling stressed, one thing you should remember to do is C.O.P.E.S!


Whenever you start to feel stressed, stop what you're doing for a bit. 
Take a few deep breaths & calm yourself down!


Try closing your eyes, taking deep breaths & just focusing your mind on those deep breaths.
This will help clear your mind to re-focus on a task afterwards!

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Think of all the possible solutions & options you have for your situation & list them down!
No problem is ever too large to solve.

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Ganbatte!

Think positive! You can't solve a problem if you only think negative things about your situation. 
Have confidence in yourself & tell yourself that you will be able to solve it.

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Explore all the options you listed down previously!


Consider the pros & cons of each option, select the best one & make a genuine effort to solve your problem. Take action to reduce your problem! Defeatist attitudes never helped anyone.

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Lastly if you still feel lost, need someone else's advice or simply want a listening ear...


Speak to people you trust, like your family, friends, teachers, counsellors...


You can also go online & explore websites like www.audiblehearts.sg or www.breathe.sg for help!


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Here are some other tips as well to help organise your life & deal with problems one thing at a time!

(P.S. Last year's planner, I'm not going to Phuket hahaha. Quick getaways are also good to de-stress!)

Plan your time & activities! This will help you keep on top of everything. Here are some things to do:

* Make to-do lists! The feeling of ticking/canceling each item is awesome
* Keep a calendar/schedule & remember to include leisure time for yourself :)
* Divide larger/more difficult tasks into smaller sub-tasks

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Personally when I study I like to create little milestones for myself. The human attention span is pretty short, so aiming to complete e.g. 3 large tasks (chapters, assignments, papers...) in a day can seem daunting & depressing if not accomplished. Instead I set really mini goals for myself to keep the pace going without wanting to tear my hair out :D

Example:
Complete 2 pages of a reading & I get to check Twitter updates.
Finish one section of a reading & I get to play one short iPhone game.

You get the gist! You don't have to worry about spending too long on your e.g. Twitter "reward" because you do it so periodically such that each time there isn't that much new to see haha.

The aim is to have very short rewards (in terms of time) for shorter tasks!

Here's one example of one of my self-"rewards"! 
I let myself decorate one coloured marker each time haha.
The key is to indulge in little activities that you enjoy & help break the monotony! :)

At the same time I also like to keep my study/work materials colourful & engaging to cheer myself up.
Therefore I somewhat enjoy using different colors in my notes & doing little doodles sometimes.
These are all things that can be made into "rewards" too.

Like here! I stuck dinosaur stickers on a reading I had to do for a presentation :)
It instantly looks less dreary!

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Remember to eat & sleep well too! A balanced diet & regular hydration help keep your body & mind sharp to improve your focus. Exercise is also a good way to reduce stress as it releases endorphins!

Remember to set realistic goals for yourself, which can be raised each time you achieve a new target.
Mistakes are not failures - learn from them so that you will do even better the next time.

I know parental expectations may be particularly hard to deal with, so if they are unrealistic you need to speak calmly with them, explaining your current abilities & goals to come to a middle ground.

If your parents see that you are putting in effort to achieve a reasonable goal then they will have more confidence that you can be trusted to handle your own problems :) Involve them in the process to make them feel better by telling them how they can help, even if it's simple/indirect things like engaging a tuition teacher for you or cooking meals & ensuring you are not disturbed.

Remember to:


Whatever it is you're going through, many have gone through before you & many more will follow.
So no problem is ever too big or too difficult to solve! Remember that you're not alone :)

Check out Breathe.sg for all their tips on coping with stress!
Here are just some of the examples:

You can also find them on Facebook, where they actively post tips & hold contests/giveaways!

Think positive & combat stress! :)

Mini-update

Monday, February 25, 2013
Hello!
I'm having my mid-term break right now, which lasts for a week. 
Sounds good but it basically just means work due at the end of the week :/

Spent some time this weekend playing around with the scrapbook materials that Handmake It sent me!

So many cute stickers, decals & art papers! :D

I used some of the polaroid sticker frames to decorate polaroids I had. Looks really colourful now!
The best part is that I can still reuse the middle section (the rectangle) for other stuff!

Also used one of the decals ("Happy Birthday") & it was surprisingly easy & clean-cut.

Closer look at some of the stickers! I stuck a few others on the cover of my iPhone.
AND YES I DROPPED MY PHONE & THE BACK CRACKED T_T

You can order cute stationery & other materials from Handmake It as well! :)
Check out their Facebook page for previews & updates.
P.S. Quote SOPHIE5 to get 5% off your total purchase!

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Received this pretty sequined-collar top from My Corner Shop!
The mesh cut-outs make it really unique & it can be matched both casually or more formally :)
Do check out their Facebook page for promo codes & updates!

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Love this cute denim dress from The White Carousel!
It's super easy to match & it looks really fun :D
Join their mailing list to get free normal postage!

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Dropped by the launch of the Blackberry 10 event at the Art-Science Museum at MBS the other day!

Blackberry 10 actually refers to the new operating system that Blackberry has developed.
The 2 Blackberries themselves that are actually being launched are called Z10 (entirely touchscreen) & Q10 (touchscreen with normal Qwerty keyboard). I like the Q10 but I didn't get to see it that day!

This is the Z10!

The new Blackberry 10s have some pretty amazing functions like an intuitive keyboard (it can predict the next word you might type & it gets smarter over time) & video calls on BBM.

One function that really impressed me is in their camera:

Every time you snap a photo, the Blackberry will capture a few microseconds of pictures before/after.
So if one person in the photo is blinking, you can select just that face & scroll through all the possible shots of him/her to find one where they look good :O :O :O :O Rest of the photo remains untouched.

Amazing or what wtf!!!!

No more issues of one person spoiling the picture! 
Plus you can also check your own face to see if got better options for yourself hahahaha.

Super pretty cake! I love the colours.

Went down that day thanks to Beatrice! We were both at a blogger briefing in the afternoon & she said she was going for the Blackberry event (I didn't RSVP :X) so I said I didn't mind going too!

This is Boss Ming! Literally my boss hahahaha. He is one of the co-founders of Nuffnang :)

Getting my caricature drawn! Rare photo showing my right profile (I hate it) haha.

I refuse to upload a picture of the caricature because he didn't make me pretty HAHAHA.
Ok I know the point of caricatures are to be comical but still! *sulks*

Quite a lot of happenings this week!
Can't wait for the Nuffnang birthday bash (they turn 6) this Wednesday :D
Tata!

Jipaban Outfits

Friday, February 22, 2013
Around the Chinese New Year period Jipaban let me pick out a few pieces to feature so whoo! - no need to go Chinese New Year shopping! Here's a few outfits I put together with what they sent me :)



Denim top with embroidered collar & Neon yellow-pink necklace both from Jipaban!




Striped pocket pullover & High-waist cross shorts both from Jipaban as well!

I especially love the shorts because they fit me really well & for bottoms it's usually hard to find well-fitting ones! The pullover is great for cold & rainy days too (WHICH HAS BEEN EVERY.SINGLE.DAY FOR THE LAST 3 WEEKS. SKY WHAT YOU DOING *shakes fist*)!


Here's a classic studded black dress that's suitable for both casual & more formal occasions!


Electric blue blazer, High-waist cross shorts & Blue-pink necklace all from Jipaban!
The blazer is of a really good quality :O I was really pleasantly surprised!
The material is thick & the cut is well structured. Definitely a thumbs up!

And and and...
One of my favourite sections on Jipaban are actually the accessories because they have a HUGE range!

Here's all the stuff I picked out:
Had a hard time narrowing down my necklace selection & I still wound up with 5 O.O


Picked this braided bracelet in 3 girly colours but this design comes in loads of other shades too!

Cute unicorn ring! And really unusual ribcage ring!

See the ring? It's different on both sides, really resembling a ribcage.

And here are some daily OOTD photos featuring Jipaban necklaces!



Red dress for Chinese New Year luck ^_^


Layered 2 necklaces in this photo!
I notice I actually wear the white teardrop one a lot :D


Jipaban is also holding a massive BOOK SALE (yes they stock books as well as a ton of other items like stationery, DVDs, novelty items & other knick knacks)! 
The book sale began 22/02/2013 (Friday) so hurry to make your pick! :)

In the meantime, happy shopping! :D


P.S. For all you accessories lovers, key in <sophie20> to get 20% off accessories!